1 00:00:00,104 --> 00:00:02,031 Today, the natural hair movement 2 00:00:02,070 --> 00:00:04,500 is a celebration that allows women of color 3 00:00:04,547 --> 00:00:08,046 to wear their kinky tendrils loudly and proudly. 4 00:00:08,092 --> 00:00:10,271 But we had to fight to get here, 5 00:00:10,355 --> 00:00:12,784 and our hair used to be the tip of the spear. 6 00:00:12,863 --> 00:00:15,497 So, while the afros of the '60s and the '70s 7 00:00:15,599 --> 00:00:18,567 became those decades' symbols of revolution... 8 00:00:18,669 --> 00:00:21,770 hair in the '80s became all about assimilation. 9 00:00:21,872 --> 00:00:24,906 See, once black people found themselves in jobs 10 00:00:25,008 --> 00:00:27,409 that used to be only open to white people, 11 00:00:27,511 --> 00:00:30,278 natural hair became a symbol of otherness. 12 00:00:30,380 --> 00:00:33,782 So, to fit in, we dyed it, tied it, and fried it. 13 00:00:33,884 --> 00:00:36,952 But me, I still hadn't gotten the memo. 14 00:00:37,054 --> 00:00:40,522 Excuse me, your hair is making it hard to learn. 15 00:00:40,624 --> 00:00:43,291 - Oh. Sorry. - So, Wednesday is... 16 00:00:43,393 --> 00:00:44,593 picture day! 17 00:00:44,661 --> 00:00:47,496 I know I say this every year, but school pictures 18 00:00:47,564 --> 00:00:50,932 are how people will remember you for the rest of your lives. 19 00:00:51,001 --> 00:00:53,001 If you want to learn that the hard way, fine. 20 00:00:53,070 --> 00:00:55,670 They don't pay me enough to argue with children. 21 00:00:55,739 --> 00:00:57,606 It's true. You should take the pictures seriously. 22 00:00:57,708 --> 00:00:58,874 People still rag on me 23 00:00:58,976 --> 00:01:01,109 because my left eye used to be a little lazy. 24 00:01:03,547 --> 00:01:05,947 - Well, now you can barely tell. - What? 25 00:01:06,049 --> 00:01:07,249 It's supposed to be gone! 26 00:01:07,351 --> 00:01:08,950 That continues into adulthood. 27 00:01:08,986 --> 00:01:11,253 And because school pictures are so important, 28 00:01:11,321 --> 00:01:15,157 we will not wear T-shirts with bad words on them, Jeffrey. 29 00:01:15,225 --> 00:01:21,196 We will keep our tongues inside of our mouths, Daniel. 30 00:01:21,298 --> 00:01:23,899 Our clothes will be pressed, 31 00:01:24,001 --> 00:01:26,001 and our hair will be neat. 32 00:01:26,103 --> 00:01:29,604 I repeat, our hair will be neat. 33 00:01:29,706 --> 00:01:32,574 So, while today, my hair is an emblem 34 00:01:32,676 --> 00:01:35,810 of my proud, unapologetic black heritage, 35 00:01:35,913 --> 00:01:37,379 for 12-year-old me, 36 00:01:37,481 --> 00:01:40,549 it was just another way I was different. 37 00:01:40,651 --> 00:01:41,816 ♪ In the mix ♪ 38 00:01:41,919 --> 00:01:44,219 ♪ Oh, oh, oh, they keep trying ♪ 39 00:01:44,321 --> 00:01:46,521 ♪ But they can't stop us ♪ 40 00:01:46,623 --> 00:01:48,890 ♪ 'Cause we got a love ♪ 41 00:01:48,992 --> 00:01:51,226 ♪ That keeps rising up ♪ 42 00:01:51,328 --> 00:01:52,460 ♪ In the mix ♪ 43 00:01:52,563 --> 00:01:54,162 ♪ Life turns around ♪ 44 00:01:54,264 --> 00:01:55,730 ♪ 'Round and 'round it goes ♪ 45 00:01:55,832 --> 00:01:58,333 ♪ Ooh, it's a mixed-up world ♪ ♪ Ooh, it's a mixed-up ♪ 46 00:01:58,435 --> 00:02:00,101 ♪ And that's for sure ♪ ♪ Mixed-up ♪ 47 00:02:00,204 --> 00:02:01,836 ♪ In the mix ♪ ♪ Baby ♪ 48 00:02:01,939 --> 00:02:03,605 ♪ We're gonna get by ♪ 49 00:02:03,674 --> 00:02:05,807 ♪ We're gonna ♪ ♪ On our own, side by side ♪ 50 00:02:05,909 --> 00:02:08,577 ♪ Love's all we need to be free ♪ ♪ Lo-o-o-ve is all ♪ 51 00:02:08,679 --> 00:02:10,712 ♪ I got you, you got me ♪ 52 00:02:10,814 --> 00:02:13,444 ♪ Yaaaaay us! ♪ 53 00:02:13,522 --> 00:02:15,050 ♪ I-I-In the mix ♪ 54 00:02:15,152 --> 00:02:17,928 ♪ Yaaaaay us! ♪ 55 00:02:17,999 --> 00:02:20,662 ♪ I-I-In the mix-ish ♪ 56 00:02:20,757 --> 00:02:22,157 Synced and corrected by kinglouisxx www.addic7ed.com 57 00:02:22,258 --> 00:02:23,959 Hey, kids! 58 00:02:23,984 --> 00:02:24,950 - Hey, Grandpa. - Hey. 59 00:02:24,975 --> 00:02:26,004 - Hello. - Grandpa! 60 00:02:26,029 --> 00:02:27,329 If you two hang out enough, 61 00:02:27,431 --> 00:02:29,764 maybe your cycles will sync up. 62 00:02:29,866 --> 00:02:31,066 That's very funny. 63 00:02:31,134 --> 00:02:32,678 But I'm actually pretty good at this hair thing. 64 00:02:32,788 --> 00:02:34,725 - Right, Santamonica? - Can I be honest? 65 00:02:35,806 --> 00:02:37,672 You're kind of a one-trick pony. 66 00:02:42,145 --> 00:02:44,446 Oh, that reminds me. 67 00:02:44,548 --> 00:02:46,741 Make sure it's a Mom hair day Wednesday. 68 00:02:46,811 --> 00:02:47,882 We're taking pictures at school. 69 00:02:47,985 --> 00:02:49,384 Got it. 70 00:02:49,486 --> 00:02:51,553 Guys, come on, I can bring my A-game for picture day. 71 00:02:51,655 --> 00:02:54,122 My hair is not a game. I want Mommy! 72 00:02:54,224 --> 00:02:56,224 Baby, don't worry about picture day. 73 00:02:56,326 --> 00:02:58,593 All of you have perfect hair. 74 00:02:58,662 --> 00:03:00,362 Yeah, a lady at the grocery store 75 00:03:00,464 --> 00:03:01,496 asked who did my perm. 76 00:03:01,598 --> 00:03:03,898 But this picture thing seems like a big deal. 77 00:03:04,001 --> 00:03:05,500 Ms. Collins said my hair should look neat and... 78 00:03:05,602 --> 00:03:06,635 Excuse me? 79 00:03:06,737 --> 00:03:08,169 Neat? 80 00:03:08,272 --> 00:03:10,705 She said "neat"? 81 00:03:10,774 --> 00:03:13,592 Who are you to tell my daughter how to wear her hair? 82 00:03:13,654 --> 00:03:14,948 How dare you? 83 00:03:15,037 --> 00:03:16,611 White people. 84 00:03:16,713 --> 00:03:20,348 If there's one thing my parents loved more than us, 85 00:03:20,450 --> 00:03:23,051 it was tag-teaming ignorance. 86 00:03:23,120 --> 00:03:26,588 I really didn't know that looking neat was a bad thing. 87 00:03:26,657 --> 00:03:28,657 "Neat," "tame," "manageable"? 88 00:03:28,759 --> 00:03:30,759 That kind of language will give our daughter a complex 89 00:03:30,861 --> 00:03:31,960 about her natural hair! 90 00:03:33,096 --> 00:03:35,196 I am really sorry. 91 00:03:35,299 --> 00:03:36,464 Could you explain to your wife... 92 00:03:36,566 --> 00:03:37,868 Don't look at me. 93 00:03:37,946 --> 00:03:39,441 - I am not your friend. - Mm. 94 00:03:39,536 --> 00:03:42,804 Well, I truly didn't mean anything. 95 00:03:42,906 --> 00:03:45,340 Because I actually love your daughter's hair. 96 00:03:45,442 --> 00:03:49,611 I can always find her so easily in the hallway, 97 00:03:49,713 --> 00:03:54,482 and it is so big, and... 98 00:03:54,584 --> 00:03:55,542 furry. 99 00:03:55,585 --> 00:03:56,495 Like my Chia Pet. 100 00:03:56,566 --> 00:03:58,186 Oh. 101 00:03:58,288 --> 00:04:00,522 Saved by the bell. 102 00:04:02,092 --> 00:04:04,141 So, how did everyone change the world today? 103 00:04:04,193 --> 00:04:05,225 I'll start. 104 00:04:05,297 --> 00:04:08,477 Today, your mother and I fixed racism. 105 00:04:08,555 --> 00:04:10,665 Well, we didn't fix it all. 106 00:04:10,767 --> 00:04:12,467 But we did set a racist teacher straight. 107 00:04:12,569 --> 00:04:14,169 Ooh! You yelled at a white person? 108 00:04:14,271 --> 00:04:15,770 - Yes. - Tell me everything. 109 00:04:15,872 --> 00:04:17,872 So, picture day is coming up, 110 00:04:17,941 --> 00:04:20,542 and this woman had the nerve to tell Rainbow 111 00:04:20,644 --> 00:04:22,811 to make sure that her hair was neat. 112 00:04:22,913 --> 00:04:25,180 I never thought I'd say this, 113 00:04:25,282 --> 00:04:27,015 but you owe that white lady an apology. 114 00:04:27,117 --> 00:04:28,550 Your baby's hair should be neat. 115 00:04:28,652 --> 00:04:29,684 I'm confused. 116 00:04:29,786 --> 00:04:31,453 Is "neat" a racist word? 117 00:04:31,555 --> 00:04:32,454 - No! - Yes. 118 00:04:32,556 --> 00:04:34,389 It's not racist, it's the truth. 119 00:04:34,491 --> 00:04:35,790 School pictures are forever, 120 00:04:35,892 --> 00:04:38,059 - so all y'all need to tame your hair. - Thank you, 121 00:04:38,161 --> 00:04:40,829 but I'm raising my kids to be proud of their hair. 122 00:04:40,931 --> 00:04:42,831 They can't look good and be proud? 123 00:04:42,933 --> 00:04:44,733 So, should I get a haircut? 124 00:04:44,801 --> 00:04:45,934 - No! - Yes! 125 00:04:46,036 --> 00:04:48,870 Honestly, I need to take you all to a professional, 126 00:04:48,939 --> 00:04:51,573 because these home haircuts and afro puffs 127 00:04:51,675 --> 00:04:53,041 are not working. 128 00:04:53,143 --> 00:04:54,242 Hold on! 129 00:04:54,344 --> 00:04:57,045 So there are people who do hair for a living? 130 00:04:57,147 --> 00:05:00,152 - Yeah, but... - And I trusted you! 131 00:05:00,177 --> 00:05:01,197 See? 132 00:05:01,222 --> 00:05:03,066 This is what I was trying to avoid. 133 00:05:03,153 --> 00:05:04,652 I don't want my kids getting caught up 134 00:05:04,755 --> 00:05:06,688 in mainstream standards of beauty. 135 00:05:06,790 --> 00:05:08,957 I don't remember you fighting for "standards of beauty" 136 00:05:09,025 --> 00:05:10,158 in your wedding pictures. 137 00:05:10,260 --> 00:05:11,359 Look at this. 138 00:05:11,428 --> 00:05:13,261 Re... You... 139 00:05:14,297 --> 00:05:16,631 Mm-hmm. Look at that. 140 00:05:17,534 --> 00:05:18,767 Mm. 141 00:05:21,605 --> 00:05:23,705 Mom. 142 00:05:23,807 --> 00:05:24,806 You look so pretty. 143 00:05:24,875 --> 00:05:27,075 Oh, yeah, your hair looked really good. 144 00:05:28,578 --> 00:05:31,179 I mean, unless you... you don't think it does. 145 00:05:31,281 --> 00:05:35,383 But... your... your hair looks beautiful to me always. 146 00:05:35,485 --> 00:05:37,252 - Like a black Farrah Fawcett. - Oh. 147 00:05:37,320 --> 00:05:40,388 No, you... Farrah is, like, a white you... 148 00:05:40,490 --> 00:05:42,090 Uh, who wants dessert? 149 00:05:42,159 --> 00:05:43,091 I'm in. 150 00:05:43,193 --> 00:05:45,093 Well, I don't change it anymore. 151 00:05:46,396 --> 00:05:50,198 As proud as my mother was of her natural hair... 152 00:05:50,267 --> 00:05:53,701 It didn't seem like she always was. 153 00:05:53,804 --> 00:05:55,837 And as I stared at her wedding photo, 154 00:05:55,872 --> 00:05:58,840 I realized that when it came to special occasions, 155 00:05:58,909 --> 00:06:00,442 if you wanted to look great, 156 00:06:00,510 --> 00:06:03,011 you might just have to go straight. 157 00:06:03,113 --> 00:06:05,313 Dad? 158 00:06:05,415 --> 00:06:07,148 I've been thinking about what Aunt Dee-Dee said, 159 00:06:07,217 --> 00:06:10,718 and maybe I do need a haircut before picture day. 160 00:06:10,787 --> 00:06:12,402 All right! Yes! 161 00:06:12,464 --> 00:06:14,322 Hair bowl is clean and ready. 162 00:06:14,391 --> 00:06:17,792 Actually, I was thinking of something a bit different. 163 00:06:17,894 --> 00:06:18,993 Maybe a flat top? 164 00:06:19,095 --> 00:06:20,328 A flat... 165 00:06:21,631 --> 00:06:22,722 I can try. 166 00:06:22,776 --> 00:06:25,300 Dad, I love your haircuts, 167 00:06:25,371 --> 00:06:28,203 but can I try a real barber shop? 168 00:06:29,206 --> 00:06:31,139 Sure, buddy. Yeah, whatever you want. 169 00:06:31,208 --> 00:06:32,774 Yes! That's bad. 170 00:06:32,843 --> 00:06:36,344 But not "bad" meaning bad, but "bad" meaning good. 171 00:06:36,446 --> 00:06:38,246 Okay. 172 00:06:49,960 --> 00:06:51,426 If you're looking for Denise, 173 00:06:51,495 --> 00:06:53,528 she has unfortunately passed on 174 00:06:53,597 --> 00:06:55,797 and is unable to pay any debts. 175 00:06:55,866 --> 00:06:57,899 Aunt Dee-Dee, it's Rainbow. 176 00:06:57,968 --> 00:07:00,001 Oh, hey, girl, what's up? 177 00:07:00,103 --> 00:07:01,703 I was thinking about it, 178 00:07:01,805 --> 00:07:03,857 and I really want my hair to get straightened 179 00:07:03,927 --> 00:07:05,076 for picture day. 180 00:07:05,138 --> 00:07:07,075 - Will you take me to the beauty salon? - I'll do it. 181 00:07:07,177 --> 00:07:09,711 Do you think you're going to a beauty salon without me? 182 00:07:09,779 --> 00:07:10,812 - Mommy! - Shh! 183 00:07:10,914 --> 00:07:12,680 No, you can't come. 184 00:07:12,782 --> 00:07:15,517 I can't have that clown messing up my crown anymore. 185 00:07:15,619 --> 00:07:16,751 - Mommy! - Shh! 186 00:07:16,853 --> 00:07:19,387 Fine, fine, fine, fine. You can come with us. 187 00:07:19,489 --> 00:07:21,890 You know, Dad really is trying. 188 00:07:21,992 --> 00:07:24,025 He's a clown, Rainbow. 189 00:07:24,127 --> 00:07:27,562 And for the first time since leaving the commune, 190 00:07:27,664 --> 00:07:29,288 I was trying to fit in. 191 00:07:30,539 --> 00:07:32,453 Hey, guys, how are ya? 192 00:07:32,542 --> 00:07:34,132 Tommy, I brought you a new customer. 193 00:07:34,193 --> 00:07:35,727 Thank you, Mr. Jackson. 194 00:07:35,762 --> 00:07:36,786 You sure you want to go through with this? 195 00:07:36,833 --> 00:07:37,887 Not too late to change your mind. 196 00:07:37,927 --> 00:07:40,111 Oh, don't listen to him, Johan. Come here. 197 00:07:40,196 --> 00:07:41,829 Hop right up there, buddy. 198 00:07:41,898 --> 00:07:43,809 Boy, I am so happy that you decided 199 00:07:43,864 --> 00:07:46,167 to come to my barber shop for your first haircut. 200 00:07:46,235 --> 00:07:48,636 I've been coming here since... 201 00:07:48,704 --> 00:07:51,105 before you were legally allowed to come here. 202 00:07:51,174 --> 00:07:53,274 Nice history lesson. 203 00:07:53,342 --> 00:07:55,643 So, what kind of style do you have in mind today? 204 00:07:55,711 --> 00:07:58,479 Whatever makes me look the most fresh. 205 00:07:58,548 --> 00:07:59,613 "Fresh"? 206 00:07:59,682 --> 00:08:02,616 Uh, Lewis, you know how to cut fresh? 207 00:08:02,685 --> 00:08:04,351 No, he said he wants to look like 208 00:08:04,454 --> 00:08:05,920 that rapper Schoolly D. 209 00:08:06,022 --> 00:08:07,221 Yeah. 210 00:08:07,323 --> 00:08:09,323 Ohh, I see. 211 00:08:09,392 --> 00:08:12,560 Perhaps the young gentleman might be more comfortable 212 00:08:12,628 --> 00:08:14,895 at that barbershop on MLK? 213 00:08:14,997 --> 00:08:16,063 Oh. 214 00:08:16,098 --> 00:08:18,899 Because it's a black barbershop? This is unbelievable. 215 00:08:18,968 --> 00:08:20,884 - Johan, let's go. - Okay. Okay, hang on, hang on. 216 00:08:20,947 --> 00:08:22,403 Listen, Tommy, I'm sure 217 00:08:22,472 --> 00:08:24,672 there's something you can do with the kid's hair 218 00:08:24,740 --> 00:08:27,675 so we don't have to go anywhere near MLK. 219 00:08:27,710 --> 00:08:30,244 Dad, come on. 220 00:08:31,981 --> 00:08:34,248 Fine, I'll go. 221 00:08:34,317 --> 00:08:36,050 But I'm leaving my camera here. 222 00:08:36,152 --> 00:08:37,885 And my Rolex. 223 00:08:39,088 --> 00:08:40,788 And my money clip. 224 00:08:40,890 --> 00:08:42,623 And my house keys. 225 00:08:43,926 --> 00:08:46,160 You have anything of value? Just kidding. Let's go. 226 00:08:49,232 --> 00:08:51,799 I still remember everything 227 00:08:51,868 --> 00:08:56,036 about the first time I walked into a salon. 228 00:08:57,740 --> 00:09:00,341 The sound of the hair sizzling on the hot comb, 229 00:09:00,443 --> 00:09:03,677 the roar of the blow dryer, the RandB oldies on the radio, 230 00:09:03,779 --> 00:09:06,380 and the sound of black women yelling over it all. 231 00:09:06,449 --> 00:09:09,717 It might have been my first time through those doors, 232 00:09:09,785 --> 00:09:11,571 but it felt like home. 233 00:09:11,634 --> 00:09:13,353 - Wow. - Hey, Dee-Dee. 234 00:09:13,422 --> 00:09:14,555 Hey, Jaleesa girl. 235 00:09:14,624 --> 00:09:16,256 I thought your appointment was next week. 236 00:09:16,359 --> 00:09:17,358 It is, but I was hoping 237 00:09:17,426 --> 00:09:19,059 you could squeeze my nieces in. 238 00:09:19,128 --> 00:09:21,328 School picture day is coming up, and, well... 239 00:09:21,397 --> 00:09:22,429 you see them. 240 00:09:22,465 --> 00:09:24,365 They got Indian in them? 241 00:09:24,425 --> 00:09:25,443 Their daddy's white. 242 00:09:25,468 --> 00:09:26,667 Oh, well, it won't take me long. 243 00:09:26,769 --> 00:09:28,035 You both got that good hair. 244 00:09:28,104 --> 00:09:30,137 Thank you, but I got good everything. 245 00:09:31,307 --> 00:09:32,473 "Good hair" might have sounded 246 00:09:32,541 --> 00:09:34,341 like a compliment, 247 00:09:34,377 --> 00:09:35,409 but it's not. 248 00:09:35,511 --> 00:09:37,111 In America, 249 00:09:37,213 --> 00:09:40,147 white hair has always been the standard of beauty. 250 00:09:40,216 --> 00:09:42,650 Maybe this is why our first black millionaire 251 00:09:42,718 --> 00:09:45,185 was Madam C.J. Walker... a woman who made a fortune 252 00:09:45,254 --> 00:09:47,421 by developing a way to straighten black hair. 253 00:09:47,523 --> 00:09:49,123 No matter how you spun it, 254 00:09:49,191 --> 00:09:52,993 the term "good hair" was bad for black self-esteem. 255 00:09:59,902 --> 00:10:01,201 All right. 256 00:10:04,974 --> 00:10:07,007 Hey, we're just looking to get my son's hair cut. 257 00:10:07,076 --> 00:10:09,743 Uh, I don't see color, but he is half black. 258 00:10:09,845 --> 00:10:11,879 - You married a sister? - Yeah. 259 00:10:11,981 --> 00:10:13,681 I see you, white flash. 260 00:10:13,783 --> 00:10:15,516 Just give me a minute. 261 00:10:19,055 --> 00:10:20,721 You like boxing? 262 00:10:20,823 --> 00:10:22,656 Oh, love boxing. 263 00:10:22,758 --> 00:10:24,124 Which fighter you got? 264 00:10:25,127 --> 00:10:26,760 _ 265 00:10:26,829 --> 00:10:28,749 This feels like a trick. 266 00:10:28,781 --> 00:10:29,797 There it is. 267 00:10:29,874 --> 00:10:31,773 - That's the one. - That is the one. 268 00:10:31,867 --> 00:10:33,267 Just not for you. 269 00:10:33,335 --> 00:10:35,069 - Why not? - It won't work. 270 00:10:35,137 --> 00:10:36,570 Your hair's not black enough for it. 271 00:10:36,639 --> 00:10:38,706 Then how about that? 272 00:10:38,774 --> 00:10:40,373 Definitely not that one. 273 00:10:40,428 --> 00:10:41,460 I'm sorry, young blood. 274 00:10:41,514 --> 00:10:43,711 Is there a cut you can give my son? 275 00:10:43,813 --> 00:10:45,879 I mean, I could cut it all off. 276 00:10:45,948 --> 00:10:47,114 Come on, let's just go. 277 00:10:47,183 --> 00:10:49,349 - Whoa, whoa, hold on. - I want to go home. 278 00:10:50,352 --> 00:10:52,386 We should listen to the boy. 279 00:10:52,455 --> 00:10:54,188 I haven't said anything offensive yet, 280 00:10:54,256 --> 00:10:56,167 but I can feel it bubbling up. 281 00:10:58,327 --> 00:10:59,927 Thank you. 282 00:11:02,198 --> 00:11:04,198 I like O'Malley in seven. 283 00:11:04,300 --> 00:11:05,766 'Course you do. 284 00:11:07,903 --> 00:11:11,872 They say time heals all wounds, but in a black salon, 285 00:11:11,907 --> 00:11:13,507 it seemed like the longer you were there, 286 00:11:13,609 --> 00:11:15,342 the more painful it became. 287 00:11:21,617 --> 00:11:22,916 But in the end, 288 00:11:23,018 --> 00:11:25,853 it felt like it was all worth it. 289 00:11:25,921 --> 00:11:26,987 You like it? 290 00:11:27,089 --> 00:11:28,722 I didn't like it. 291 00:11:28,824 --> 00:11:30,791 I love it. 292 00:11:32,928 --> 00:11:35,395 - How was the mall? - You tell me. 293 00:11:38,157 --> 00:11:39,166 I'm sorry. 294 00:11:39,268 --> 00:11:40,968 Are you mad? 295 00:11:41,070 --> 00:11:42,736 I'm not mad at you. 296 00:11:42,805 --> 00:11:44,071 You're just a child. 297 00:11:44,106 --> 00:11:46,340 But an adult should've asked my permission 298 00:11:46,408 --> 00:11:48,408 before she touched my babies' heads. 299 00:11:48,477 --> 00:11:50,210 They asked me to take them. 300 00:11:50,279 --> 00:11:51,912 You know I didn't want to change their hair. 301 00:11:51,981 --> 00:11:55,182 So is this a bad time to ask for the $45 I just spent? 302 00:11:55,217 --> 00:11:57,050 - So you do hate it? - It's not up to me. 303 00:11:57,153 --> 00:11:58,685 Do you like it? 304 00:11:58,754 --> 00:12:00,754 Honestly, 305 00:12:00,856 --> 00:12:02,189 I really like it. 306 00:12:03,058 --> 00:12:05,325 Okay. 307 00:12:05,427 --> 00:12:07,928 Well, if you like it, 308 00:12:08,030 --> 00:12:09,429 I love it. 309 00:12:09,532 --> 00:12:11,331 Hey, Santi. 310 00:12:11,433 --> 00:12:12,432 Yes? 311 00:12:12,501 --> 00:12:14,368 Hey, Santi. 312 00:12:14,470 --> 00:12:15,469 Yes? 313 00:12:15,538 --> 00:12:18,071 Who's that girl looking beautiful? 314 00:12:18,174 --> 00:12:20,040 Oh, it's just Santi! 315 00:12:21,610 --> 00:12:23,343 Thanks. 316 00:12:23,445 --> 00:12:25,579 That's money well-spent. 317 00:12:28,651 --> 00:12:32,653 Another reason black women internalize Eurocentrism? 318 00:12:34,824 --> 00:12:36,924 It seems like no one ever notices your hair 319 00:12:37,026 --> 00:12:38,062 until you straighten it. 320 00:12:38,133 --> 00:12:39,426 Hey, nice hair. 321 00:12:39,528 --> 00:12:40,928 Somebody got their hair done. 322 00:12:41,030 --> 00:12:43,096 I really like your hair. 323 00:12:43,165 --> 00:12:46,633 Having straight hair was magical. 324 00:12:46,702 --> 00:12:48,969 For the first time in my new life, 325 00:12:49,071 --> 00:12:51,505 I felt seen by everyone... 326 00:12:51,574 --> 00:12:55,776 white girls, black girls, even boys. 327 00:12:57,680 --> 00:12:59,746 But for Johan, suddenly, 328 00:12:59,815 --> 00:13:02,583 his hair became a symbol of how different he was. 329 00:13:02,618 --> 00:13:05,118 So, he and my father set out to fix it. 330 00:13:13,495 --> 00:13:15,095 Huh? 331 00:13:15,197 --> 00:13:17,164 Hmm. Okay, I'll be right back. 332 00:13:17,266 --> 00:13:18,298 Huh? 333 00:13:32,748 --> 00:13:33,981 Hey, babe. Where's your comb? 334 00:13:34,083 --> 00:13:35,616 On the sink. 335 00:13:35,718 --> 00:13:38,752 Hey, what do you think about Rainbow's new look? 336 00:13:38,821 --> 00:13:39,920 I mean... 337 00:13:40,022 --> 00:13:41,021 it's beautiful. 338 00:13:42,057 --> 00:13:44,825 But unnecessary. 339 00:13:44,927 --> 00:13:47,307 But as the African goddess Oshun once said... 340 00:13:47,362 --> 00:13:48,929 Stop trying to be politically correct. 341 00:13:48,964 --> 00:13:50,731 What do you really think? 342 00:13:50,833 --> 00:13:52,729 All I know is that today, 343 00:13:52,799 --> 00:13:54,701 it took half the time it usually takes 344 00:13:54,770 --> 00:13:56,036 to get the girls ready for school, 345 00:13:56,105 --> 00:13:58,906 and it seems that Rainbow has a lot more confidence. 346 00:13:59,008 --> 00:14:00,274 Isn't that a good thing? 347 00:14:01,510 --> 00:14:04,789 I just don't want our kids to equate straight hair 348 00:14:04,835 --> 00:14:06,220 with confidence. 349 00:14:06,282 --> 00:14:08,248 I want them to be proud of their natural hair 350 00:14:08,350 --> 00:14:09,549 like I am with mine. 351 00:14:09,652 --> 00:14:10,584 Mm. 352 00:14:10,653 --> 00:14:12,920 You know I love your hair, 353 00:14:12,988 --> 00:14:14,755 but were you born with that confidence, 354 00:14:14,857 --> 00:14:16,623 or did you have to learn it? 355 00:14:16,659 --> 00:14:20,861 I don't know. 356 00:14:20,930 --> 00:14:22,963 I don't know where it came from. 357 00:14:23,966 --> 00:14:25,599 They'll get there. 358 00:14:25,668 --> 00:14:26,833 It just takes time. 359 00:14:30,739 --> 00:14:32,205 But is it good or bad that I'm about to try 360 00:14:32,274 --> 00:14:34,574 to give Johan something called "corn rolls"? 361 00:14:37,179 --> 00:14:38,679 Bad. 362 00:14:41,784 --> 00:14:43,817 Johan's identity as a black boy was threatened 363 00:14:43,852 --> 00:14:45,185 when his hair wasn't "black enough" 364 00:14:45,287 --> 00:14:46,787 for any of the popular styles. 365 00:14:46,889 --> 00:14:49,423 But today, he didn't have that problem. 366 00:14:55,097 --> 00:14:56,930 Hey, Johan! 367 00:15:00,736 --> 00:15:03,737 Hey, everyone, look at Ebony and Ivory over here! 368 00:15:05,474 --> 00:15:07,708 - Yeah, isn't she lovely? - Aww. 369 00:15:07,776 --> 00:15:11,144 But when his hair couldn't follow in Stevie's footsteps, 370 00:15:11,180 --> 00:15:13,780 Johan followed the path of many mixed boys 371 00:15:13,882 --> 00:15:15,615 who don't feel black enough. 372 00:15:15,651 --> 00:15:18,118 They overcompensate. 373 00:15:19,989 --> 00:15:21,705 And on the other side of school, 374 00:15:21,783 --> 00:15:24,057 I was having my own hair problems. 375 00:15:24,127 --> 00:15:25,692 You going to gym like that? 376 00:15:25,794 --> 00:15:27,227 Yeah. Thank you. 377 00:15:28,364 --> 00:15:30,797 Unfortunately, that wasn't a compliment. 378 00:15:30,899 --> 00:15:32,432 It was a warning. 379 00:15:32,534 --> 00:15:34,267 Because my hair wasn't wrapped up, 380 00:15:34,370 --> 00:15:36,103 I was about to sweat it out. 381 00:15:36,205 --> 00:15:39,906 White people, allow Dr. Johnson to explain. 382 00:15:39,975 --> 00:15:41,541 When straightened hair gets wet, 383 00:15:41,643 --> 00:15:43,944 hydrogen bonds form between water molecules 384 00:15:44,046 --> 00:15:45,779 and the proteins in your hair. 385 00:15:45,881 --> 00:15:48,882 This causes the hair to revert to its natural curl. 386 00:15:48,984 --> 00:15:52,019 But if you keep your hair wrapped up until it's dry, 387 00:15:52,121 --> 00:15:53,453 what you manage to do 388 00:15:53,555 --> 00:15:55,555 is physically hold your hair in the shape you want. 389 00:15:55,657 --> 00:15:58,258 This way, it can't snap back. 390 00:15:59,795 --> 00:16:01,995 But nobody told me to do that. 391 00:16:02,097 --> 00:16:03,830 Ooh. 392 00:16:03,932 --> 00:16:06,233 I tried to tell you. 393 00:16:06,301 --> 00:16:08,847 And just like that, it was like the clock struck midnight 394 00:16:08,917 --> 00:16:10,504 and my hair had pumpkin'd, 395 00:16:10,606 --> 00:16:13,073 and the person in the mirror was a curly-headed weirdo 396 00:16:13,175 --> 00:16:14,908 that mainstream standards of beauty 397 00:16:15,010 --> 00:16:16,943 had taught me to be ashamed of. 398 00:16:17,046 --> 00:16:18,545 I couldn't look at her, 399 00:16:18,614 --> 00:16:21,824 and I knew I had to find another glass slipper, stat. 400 00:16:22,279 --> 00:16:25,263 A fight? You got in a fight in school? 401 00:16:25,349 --> 00:16:27,248 You didn't happen to pick up any of those beads, did you? 402 00:16:27,310 --> 00:16:29,852 - Paul. - Son, in this family, 403 00:16:29,921 --> 00:16:32,035 we don't fight with fists. 404 00:16:32,113 --> 00:16:33,579 And we don't leave beads on the ground. 405 00:16:33,640 --> 00:16:34,939 Sorry, they weren't cheap. 406 00:16:35,016 --> 00:16:37,450 But they were making fun of my hair. 407 00:16:37,519 --> 00:16:38,751 If they were making fun of you, 408 00:16:38,820 --> 00:16:41,387 they were probably just jealous. 409 00:16:41,456 --> 00:16:43,623 I'm sorry, baby, I can't lie to you. 410 00:16:43,691 --> 00:16:45,424 Hi, B... 411 00:16:45,527 --> 00:16:47,927 Oh! What happened to your head? 412 00:16:48,029 --> 00:16:51,230 Not to be petty, but I did just pay $45 for it. 413 00:16:51,299 --> 00:16:52,732 Yes, I know it's messed up, 414 00:16:52,800 --> 00:16:54,066 but picture day is tomorrow. 415 00:16:54,102 --> 00:16:55,601 Can someone please help me fix this? 416 00:16:55,670 --> 00:16:57,253 - Yes, I'm on it... - Not you, clown. 417 00:16:57,278 --> 00:16:58,240 Hey! 418 00:16:58,265 --> 00:16:59,965 - Okay, but the real problem here is my hair. - Whoa! 419 00:17:00,036 --> 00:17:02,028 - You heard the clown! - But you can't talk to me like that. 420 00:17:02,934 --> 00:17:04,710 Everybody stop! 421 00:17:04,779 --> 00:17:06,179 It's finally time to talk about this. 422 00:17:06,247 --> 00:17:08,114 Living room. Now. 423 00:17:08,183 --> 00:17:10,683 You guys are free to do whatever you want. 424 00:17:10,785 --> 00:17:12,518 But I'll be honest. 425 00:17:12,587 --> 00:17:14,187 When you change your hair, it makes me feel like 426 00:17:14,289 --> 00:17:15,721 I didn't raise you to love yourself. 427 00:17:15,790 --> 00:17:17,390 When we left for the commune, 428 00:17:17,458 --> 00:17:21,327 everything was loud, proud, and natural, and now... 429 00:17:21,362 --> 00:17:22,595 Now we have jobs. 430 00:17:22,664 --> 00:17:25,665 The revolution is not paying my car note, PanAm is. 431 00:17:25,767 --> 00:17:29,035 I'm just kidding. I am not paying my car note. 432 00:17:29,137 --> 00:17:30,102 Seems like everyone 433 00:17:30,138 --> 00:17:32,471 was so caught up in trying to fit in 434 00:17:32,540 --> 00:17:33,806 that they forgot to try and be 435 00:17:33,841 --> 00:17:35,775 the good black people they already were. 436 00:17:35,843 --> 00:17:37,543 So I'm not a good black person 437 00:17:37,612 --> 00:17:39,212 if my hair is straight? 438 00:17:44,152 --> 00:17:46,052 Baby... 439 00:17:46,154 --> 00:17:47,620 I'm sorry. 440 00:17:47,722 --> 00:17:50,122 I was so big on this natural hair thing 441 00:17:50,225 --> 00:17:52,625 because I know how hard it was 442 00:17:52,694 --> 00:17:54,827 for me to get back to it. 443 00:17:54,896 --> 00:17:57,296 And I didn't want you to go through that. 444 00:17:57,398 --> 00:17:59,799 But the truth is 445 00:17:59,867 --> 00:18:03,336 I change my hair every day when I go to work. 446 00:18:03,404 --> 00:18:05,838 So, it's not my place to tell anyone 447 00:18:05,907 --> 00:18:07,840 what to do with their hair. 448 00:18:07,942 --> 00:18:09,809 Especially since we fought 449 00:18:09,877 --> 00:18:12,912 so they couldn't tell us what to do with ours. 450 00:18:12,981 --> 00:18:15,147 "They" is white people. 451 00:18:16,985 --> 00:18:18,618 I can go. 452 00:18:18,720 --> 00:18:20,720 No, you need to hear this. 453 00:18:20,822 --> 00:18:23,789 We need to understand every part of their hair 454 00:18:23,891 --> 00:18:26,192 so we can be proud of whatever choice they make... 455 00:18:26,261 --> 00:18:30,196 natural, straight, fake, or real. 456 00:18:30,265 --> 00:18:31,564 I know that's right. 457 00:18:31,666 --> 00:18:33,733 And right now, I choose to stop itching. 458 00:18:33,835 --> 00:18:35,601 - Whoa. - Whoo. 459 00:18:35,703 --> 00:18:37,703 Oh, my. Huh. 460 00:18:37,772 --> 00:18:39,939 So, none of that is your hair. 461 00:18:40,008 --> 00:18:41,574 It's all mine because I paid for it. 462 00:18:41,676 --> 00:18:43,509 - Paid for it. - Yes. 463 00:18:43,611 --> 00:18:45,778 And no matter how you wear it, baby, 464 00:18:45,880 --> 00:18:48,648 you'll always be a good black person. 465 00:18:48,716 --> 00:18:50,082 You hear me? 466 00:18:51,419 --> 00:18:54,287 Love circle. 467 00:18:56,024 --> 00:18:57,857 Mm. 468 00:18:57,959 --> 00:18:59,558 Smile. 469 00:19:00,862 --> 00:19:02,495 Next. 470 00:19:02,597 --> 00:19:04,530 I know this looks like a victory, 471 00:19:04,599 --> 00:19:06,065 but the truth is 472 00:19:06,134 --> 00:19:08,576 I tried to straighten my hair that morning, 473 00:19:08,647 --> 00:19:09,678 and I failed. 474 00:19:09,748 --> 00:19:11,170 Okay, next. 475 00:19:11,205 --> 00:19:12,371 Aunt Denise was right. 476 00:19:13,775 --> 00:19:16,108 School pictures were forever. 477 00:19:19,314 --> 00:19:21,113 But that didn't mean our hair journey stopped 478 00:19:21,182 --> 00:19:24,250 when the bell rang and school let out. 479 00:19:24,319 --> 00:19:28,487 No, those would follow us for the rest of our lives 480 00:19:28,589 --> 00:19:31,791 and change over and over. 481 00:19:31,893 --> 00:19:35,094 Even if we only married into the culture. 482 00:19:35,163 --> 00:19:36,962 But as a 12-year-old girl, 483 00:19:37,031 --> 00:19:39,899 I didn't understand how complicated it all was. 484 00:19:40,001 --> 00:19:41,734 I was just a kid who let society 485 00:19:41,836 --> 00:19:44,737 make her embarrassed by her natural hair. 486 00:19:44,806 --> 00:19:47,707 Little did I know, this would be the hair 487 00:19:47,775 --> 00:19:49,241 that I would spend the rest of my life 488 00:19:49,310 --> 00:19:50,843 trying to get back to, 489 00:19:50,878 --> 00:19:54,513 that would one day be my source of power and strength. 490 00:19:54,615 --> 00:19:57,717 But the process of self-love never happens overnight. 491 00:19:57,819 --> 00:20:00,186 And while the same can be said for our country, 492 00:20:00,288 --> 00:20:02,521 the process has to start somewhere. 493 00:20:02,590 --> 00:20:04,357 On July 3rd of this year, 494 00:20:04,459 --> 00:20:06,525 California governor Gavin Newsom 495 00:20:06,627 --> 00:20:07,893 passed the CROWN Act, 496 00:20:07,995 --> 00:20:09,595 making California the first state 497 00:20:09,697 --> 00:20:10,930 to ban discrimination 498 00:20:11,032 --> 00:20:12,264 against black employees 499 00:20:12,367 --> 00:20:13,432 and students 500 00:20:13,534 --> 00:20:15,334 over their natural hairstyles. 501 00:20:15,436 --> 00:20:17,336 So, while the laws are catching up, 502 00:20:17,438 --> 00:20:19,105 black women express themselves 503 00:20:19,207 --> 00:20:21,640 in a variety of different hairstyles, 504 00:20:21,743 --> 00:20:24,944 and one thing has been and will always be true... 505 00:20:25,046 --> 00:20:27,480 all hair is good hair. 506 00:20:30,130 --> 00:20:33,403 Not trying to rush you, but the kid has places to be. 507 00:20:33,466 --> 00:20:35,132 One day, you'll look back and realize 508 00:20:35,234 --> 00:20:36,200 how amazing it was 509 00:20:36,268 --> 00:20:38,569 that your white father was able to do this. 510 00:20:38,671 --> 00:20:39,770 Not that I see color. 511 00:20:39,872 --> 00:20:42,239 And... ah! 512 00:20:42,307 --> 00:20:44,257 Whoa, 10 minutes! New record. 513 00:20:44,343 --> 00:20:46,664 - Mirror. - Oh. 514 00:20:46,767 --> 00:20:48,566 Not bad! 515 00:20:48,635 --> 00:20:51,136 But next time, I'll need to hear some gossip. 516 00:20:51,238 --> 00:20:53,148 I could tell you about the Coopers, 517 00:20:53,218 --> 00:20:54,806 but don't you have places to be? 518 00:20:54,908 --> 00:20:57,320 I can be late. 519 00:20:57,411 --> 00:20:59,444 Awesome. 9999 00:00:0,500 --> 00:00:2,00